Ok yeah, so anime titties.

Anime titties are great and glorious and good because they're unrealistic and unattainable,and attached to characters that are not real. They're awesome because these ideas of people are compartmentalized in to things that we can easily understand, easy to attribute our own images and meaning and feelings to, easy to digest and don't come with anything that is unnecessary or gets in the way of our hopes and dreams of what titties are actually filled with.
In short, anime titties are great forms of idolatry for otaku, because anime titties are actually just filled with our hopes and dreams.
The problem is when anime titties start to affect our real life.



Ok so most adult otaku already know about everything I've just said about anime titties. Real life and anime are completely different things As fucking adult otaku we have a real life that we work hard at keeping real so we can buy our waifu and dress up as them also go to conventions and meet with like minded anime titty aficionados. We don't work the standard 40 hours a week because our jobs fulfill us in creative ways, we do that shit so we can earn our adult cash moneys to spend on our adult hobbies and be very proud of the anime titties we own.
For adult otaku, our anime titties are won with our hard work and perseverance, and dealing with a bullshit world that has not been very kind to most of us. Enjoying anime titties is a right that all of us have worked very hard to earn.

The problem is that as humans, we evolved by constantly striving to make our hopes and dreams real. We expect better anime with better graphics and better waifus and demand that the industry continue to entertain us with better and better things.
Thanks to human innovation, our waifus are better than the waifus of our forefathers, and our merch is more creative and easier attain than those poor bastards as well.
As collectors we want nicer collections, as cosplayers we want better costume and nicer looking cosplayers and as consumers we want everything to be more finely tuned to our needs and wants.
But the problem with this is that as otaku we start to expect everything in life to be as instantly satisfying as anime. The same way that people expect cosplayers to be perfect and 2-D, otaku start having much higher expectations of everything around them. Their range of expectation is so large, that most otaku don't realize when their expectation graduates from hope to unrealistic expectations of themselves and others.

And most of the time when these expectations are not met, we lash out at others or judge ourselves harshly instead of looking to see if our expectations are actually at a reasonable level. Sometimes I have dude friends ask me to introduce them to cosplayer friends looking for a boyfriend such as them, and I find that their expectations are impossibly high.
Even though they think a girl friend who likes anime and games and maybe even the ones that they like, likes conventions, likes cosplaying cute girls, doesn't have any major issues, has a good personality, maybe would be up for making them a sandwich and are reasonably good looking are a starting point, they have a harder time seeing how this is the holy grail rather than your average otaku girl.
The reasoning is that since they go to cons and see a lot of cute girl cosplayers, that must be the starting point, and bonus parameters on top of what comes with the default character should also be expected.

Instead of expecting that other people may fulfill some wants, otaku tend to expect high parameters from others without thinking of if these are reasonable expectations to have of other humans. This is the most troubling when it comes to cosplay, as people tend to view cosplayers as an entertainment source for otaku consumers the same way they look at major publishing companies.

I don't think I've ever met a cosplayer that has never felt inadequate in some fashion, or has never had people that they may or may not know hold them to some unattainable standard when we are all amateurs enjoying a hobby.
I'm not ashamed to admit I've had times where other people's expectation make me feel inadequate because of unrealistic expectations, such as at time when my fancy costume and impractical video game armor didn't function the way it should in game, or because of my face not looking anime enough or my body not moving or being shaped to anime expectations.

It's a hard mentality to shake when you want to do the best you can to your current abilities, but you feel like your current abilities should be much higher than they are and you worry about others viewing you as inadequate, and thus unqualified to participate in this hobby.

I had a period of time where I didn't upload pictures and didn't like to see myself in cosplay, as I felt that previous costumes I had done made people hold me to a higher standard and that it wasn't acceptable if I wasn't making things to a unknown standard that unknown people held me to.
I felt like I was only barely adequate to cosplay because of what I looked like, and that I had to make very nice things to be allowed to enjoy cosplay.
Somehow I convinced myself that even though I thought all of my friends were perfect with their flaws I was not quite suitable enough to enjoy this hobby with them, even though none of them judged me as harshly as I did myself.

I can't say that a certain person or attitude was responsible for this, but I have to think that a lot of the unrealistic expectations that we put on ourselves and others lead a lot of cosplayers to have feelings of inadequacy for failing to reach an undefined and impossible standard.
It's not logical to expect multiple points of perfection out of cosplayers, but we otaku tend to expect it anyways.
As unreasonable as it seems, we expect cosplayers to by physically perfect, to look beautiful on and off screen with a minimal amount of help, to be kind and courteous and gifted with the skill sets that would take one years to master but to still look the age of our anime waifus, and above all, not to be flawed with the human conditions that we are flawed with.

I've heard multiple cosplayers that I would objectively consider to be physically perfect express feelings that they or others don't consider them adequate, people who are impossibly pretty to me think that they are not adequate, and people who make seams and patterns that are the stuff of dreams in to reality think they are not adequate because of the impossible standards that we hold them to.
But we should never feel inadequate to enjoy this hobby we're in. There is no qualifying level to be allowed to enjoy a hobby, no minimum set of technical qualifications you need to fulfill.

Remember that we are all more than adequate human beings, in fact most of us are great human beings that other people enjoy the company of, and the only things that would make us inadequate as cosplayers would be to perpetuate a mindset that slowly poisons all of us.
This mindset is what makes us inadequate cosplayers, as if you are ill prepared to enjoy the company of yourself and others, your time will not be well spent in this hobby. We cosplay because it brings us great joy to do so, and not because we think our parameters are appropriate to fulfill these job conditions.

Because we are all more than the sum of our parameters, and that is what brings joy to ourselves and others.

We are all people who enjoy what anime titties bring to our lives, but we are not defined by this, and they should not shape how we look at ourselves and others anymore than letting what we eat, what clothes we wear, or what books we consume define everything about us that makes us human beings.

Anime titties are perfect. We are not perfect because we are not physical representations of 2-D ideals, we are organisms that exist in a real world.
Our imperfections and flaws give us depth and light and because we exist in more than simple dimensions and our souls shine brighter than if we perfectly existed on a flat surface. We are all deeply flawed, deeply faceted people, made of a myriad of hopes, dreams, and unfortunate feelings, and none of us are merely adequate.

As cosplayers, some of the charm of cosplaying is portraying a dream.
We get to dress up, temporarily put on whatever fantastical mask we wish to, and at the end of the day take it off to return from our vacation.
But dreams should only be dreams, and you can't carry them back in to the real world with you. You can keep fond memories of them, and strive to make the next dream better, but never forget that they are insubstantial concepts, and aren't things that really exist with a basis in reality.
All cosplay is is a dream shared among numerous otaku, and while you can visit Neverland, you can't live there.